These ‘nice guys’ often have the chance, just like every one does, to take the easy route, and be a conventional male and sometimes they take that route, because they realize, through trial and error, that women are not interested in nice guys, so they become something they aren’t. Someone that defies the very fabric of their being, just to be with women they perceive themselves to be in love with. This of course is a paradox in and of itself, for as soon as one travels down this road, becoming what they fight against, they have lost the battle. They become the enemy. While immediately they will get the girl, in the long run, the girl will grow weary of his antics, and leave him just like she did all of the guys before him. Hurt and dejected the former nice guy then takes out his frustration on the next women that comes along and thus can not return to former nice guy status.
Many times i have listened to girls vent and cry and grieve over a guy that was a total jerk, whilst I consoled their fragile hearts, somehow facilitating and giving them hope, so that the next guy could do the same thing again. I really never have understood the guys that were jerks. I didn’t understand why they were so mean to such beautiful people, however the bigger mystery to me was, and still is, why these girls would allow themselves to be treated that way. There really is such a thing as being too nice. I never believed that before, but its true. If you are too nice you are taken advantage of, and if you give your shoulder for crying on, you are in the ‘friend zone’ and believe this if nothing else… once in the friend zone, you will never ever date her. Yes i know it sucks, but it is part of the delicate balance that is dating. If we nice ones weren’t there as a buffer, girls would never date. And then where would society be… a bunch of happy lesbians and nerds playing Halo… thats where.
What I have never understood, are guys that take women for granted. for someone to give you there love is such a beautiful thing that i can’t believe that guys, most guys, treat it with such wreckless abandon. They feel like a womens love is disposable, while to them it maybe, its the rest of us that have to clean up after their mess. we are the ones left to deal with their dirty laundry and stupid head games that they play
So yes, nice guys, it sucks but we are the catalysts of relationships. Its a shitty job that nobody wants, but don’t go down that other road, don’t turn into what you fight against and become one of those shitty guys, becuase as a reward for such a non-rewarding job, every once and a while, one of us gets picked up and removed from this position and, while rare, sometimes a girl will see us for what we are, and give us our chance, and even though it may be brief, we cherish it, because it is only truly good guys that know the real value of a woman’s company.