It has recently come to my attention that I am apparently not a ‘people person’. I generally don’t like people b/c I tend to see their faults. Not to say that I am perfect or without fault, b/c everyone knows thats not true! But it seems that I am focused on negative aspects of people’s personality and not on who they are. Thats not fair of me. Its just another one of the things i am working on changing about myself. I think what I need is to be able to look in the mirror and see what problems i have and solve those before even beginning to worry about other peoples problems for them. to quote a friend, i need to try to see people as Jesus see’s them… although I am not sure i agree w/ this in practice I know that the message is right. everyone has there own problems / issues / things about them that makes them, well human… and who am i to judge what is wrong w/ them… no one! I have no right to say what is wrong w/ this person or that. So my resolve to myself is to stop feeling anger towards others and try to love and accept people for who they are and not dwell on their imperfections b/c it is 100x easier to criticize someone elses faults than to change your own….. try it sometime
“Welcome to Decatur. The place where dreams don’t come true”
— Madison (upon returning from Disney World) age 9 “I made a new friend. She’s the beautiful one over there…”
— Jonah (age 5) Maddie (after eating a huge dinner): Lets go ride the tea cups, last one to puke is the winner.
Me: If you're stuck in a tea cup full of puking people, no one wins... Maddie: (thoughtfully) That's true. Manda: Put yourself in my pants for a moment...
Me: I try to put myself in your pants all the time, it never works First a story - I often like to ask people, if a few of your most immediatly family were at your house and they all sat down at the dining room table and wanted you to get them drinks and bring them food, basically get whatever they need, and in turn they’ll give you two dollars would you do it? The answer is of course “no way”. THESE PEOPLE ARE THEIR FAMILY, NOT THE COMPLTE STRANGERS WE ARE REQUIRED TO WAITE ON AND EXPECT GOOD TIPS FROM.
There are many schools of thought on what constitutes and acceptable tip. While there are extremes on either end of the spectrum, it is generally accepted to tip your server 15%. Unfortunately for persons in the restaurant industry, especially in Decatur, most people do not understand tipping. Many people simply cannot compute 15% of a check in their head, so they guess, usually grossly underestimating what the tip should have been. Some people do not believe that they have to tip, thinking that it is not their job to pay the servers salary. It would seem that most people in this area simply do not fully understand gratuity, and why it important to tip. Tipping is not only a nice thing to do; more often than not it is a must. Failure to understand why you should tip is one of the main reasons people either under tip or do not tip at all. For example, most people are unaware that servers are paid under half of the minimum wage requirements because the government says that tips compensate the rest of the servers’ income. Moreover, the server has to pay 3 percent of their sales to the government, regardless of the tip that was left. Meaning that if you do not tip your server they still have to pay taxes on the food that you purchased. For example if you spend one hundred dollars on a meal (not including tip) the server has to give the government 3 dollars of that tip to the government. If you only give your server 10 dollars (which is 10%) they only get to keep 7 dollars, which means you really only really left 7% or less then half of the accepted tipping rate of 15%. Another reason some people do not tip is they feel that it is not their job to pay the servers’ salary; sense servers make less than minimum wage. At first thought this argument seems to make sense; until you realize that if the restaurant paid their servers minimum wage they prices of the food would have to be higher, in turn making the average bill more. On an average day there is usually 20 or more servers working in a restaurant, if the restaurant were to pay servers minimum wage they would spend at least an extra $530 per day on labor. That extra money would be added into the price of the food. So by tipping your server you are controlling the price of your meal, and passing on a little extra money to the server. Perhaps the most common reason people do not tip is simply that they are unable to calculate 15% of their check. There are a few easy ways to do this, one way is to take 10% of the pre-taxed subtotal, then take half of that number and add it back to the original 10% number. For example, if the bill is $35.00, you find 10% moving the decimal one place to the left giving you $3.50. Then take half of that number, which is $1.75 and add it to the original 10% number, $3.50, so a 15% tip would be $5.25. An easier way to approximate the tip, at least in this area, is to take the amount of the tax and double it, since our sales tax is, I THINK 8% you would come up close to the 15% mark. Even with overwhelming evidence to do so, many people still feel that tipping is not always a must. If you feel that your server did a good job, let them know that, and leave them a fair tip for their help, especially if you like to receive good service. Just remember to golden rule of tipping. "He who shares the gold doesn’t get spit in his food." ~Big Tray Jay Fran: [Spits]
Bryan: "Thats not very lady like" Fran: "I'm not much of a lady... I'm more of a man than you are" Bryan: "True" I’ve been reading a lot of blogs lately and i noticed that everyone seems to have something going on in their life right now… something is stressing them out for some reason… Kids, school, work, bills, family, injury, relationships. etc… the list goes on. I am a strong believer that blogging can be very theraputic… you can vent and let things out in a blog that you normally couldn’t say to people. I was very taken aback when several people told me that they had read it and it meant something to them… i was shocked… i had to go back and reread it to even remember what all was said, because it was written off the cuff… Most of that it was stuff that i wouldn’t say to people but when you blog, there is this feeling that you aren’t really saying it to anyone, you are just putting it out there and if anyone cares to hear your rant, complaint, comment, whine, or whatever it may be, its right there for them to peruse… i think that its strange to think about, putting your private thoughts out for people to read, things that you sometimes wouldn’t otherwise say out loud. it gives great insight to peoples minds. which is kinda scary sometimes… so to everyone out there that is having some stress in your life: Blog it.. it makes you feel so much better… With that in mind…
I have been thinking lately about trust. Trust is a great concept. It says you don’t screw me and I won’t screw you. Trust is a very hard thing to give and a very hard thing to find. Most of you know my trust was shaken in a very good friend and now I am trying to find it in myself to trust some people again… I don’t know if they are sincere or if there is an ulterior motif of some kind. I don’t know, just my brain being stupid. Sometimes I feel like everyone around me knows some secret and no one is telling me… it’s a phobia of mine… i hate being out of the loop. I don’t like to feel like i am missed something, ya know? |
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May 2016
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